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Celebrating Life

There is no fun in funerals. They are often chaotic gloomy affairs, and best avoided if possible. The problem is we cannot avoid them forever, so we need a strategy to deal with funerals. The easiest strategy is to ignore them and yes, then they will be chaotic solemn affairs.

Our recommendation however is to think of funerals differently and see them as a good opportunity to celebrate life. We think that funerals should tell a story, be a party, honour a life that was lived, and perhaps hint at the life to come. Funerals don’t have to be dead events.

What do you want your funeral to be like? It is a difficult question, and no one likes to think about it, but we all need a funeral someday. Consider how you can make this day easier for those who will be there. They will be sad, at a loss and unable to think clearly. These are normal reactions when someone dies.

Celebrate life to the fullest

Friends & Relatives

Consider who will be there: it is an opportunity for friends and relatives to catch up. It requires wisdom to manage the difficult personalities or unwanted guests. It requires a strategy to manage the powerful normal emotions associated with loss and bereavement. It may be a chance to play your favourite song, have someone read your final message to the world, do away with a boring wooden casket and do it your way.

Planning & Organising

Speak to a funeral director like a friend, get the best deal they offer. Here are some considerations:

  • Do you want to be buried or cremated?
  • Will it be a religious affair or otherwise?
  • Would you like it in a specific location?
  • Will it be full service or a memorial?
  • Do you have someone in mind to do the eulogy?

Need Assistance With Your Planning?

The most important thing to do when it comes to funeral planning is “to just do it”. It is such a huge challenge for so many people, and it can seem impossible. The sooner you do it the better because, as with all great events, time or rather the lack of time to prepare, is your enemy. 

If you need some help, reach out to us

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