What must you do before you die?

Estate Planning - Flatlay items: woman’s hands writing in monthly planner

When death is approaching there are many things that need to be done. The euphemism of “getting your affairs in order” does not do justice to the magnitude of the task ahead. While these are all discussed in the book, “Death, Dying and Donuts” and on the website dyingtounderstand.com, there are some important things to […]

What happens when you die?

fear of death and dying holding hands

Dying is the process of going from perfectly good health to no health at all. For some this is an instant event, and a short journey. They leave home in the morning and have an unexpected meeting with death. This could be in motor vehicle accident or a sudden massive heart attack. For these very […]

Does it hurt when you die?

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Yes!  There is no way around this but before we get too excited it is important to understand pain and what it means to hurt. We have all experienced pain in life, whether it was the severe pain of childbirth or a kidney stone or perhaps a broken bone or simply the pain of a […]

Are you afraid of dying?

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I am often surprised by those who say they are not afraid of dying. It is easy to assume that they have no idea what they are talking about or that they may simply be lying, but there is more to the story than that. Fear is our response to a real or an imagined […]

Asking For Directions

Asking for directions

I recently managed to get well and truly lost using satellite navigation and following Susan’s mechanical voice. With confidence Susan took me from “the known” to the “very unknown” parts of Brisbane.

Future Change

Future Change

You may have heard the well- known story about a frog in hot water. Apparently if you put a frog in a pot of regular water and slowly warm it up, the frog will slowly adapt to the change…

Don’t Be Average

Don't Be Average woman jumping between trees

Last year was the hottest on record in Australia with temperatures soaring into the 40’s and the discomfort factor hitting “unbearable” for those without air-conditioning.

The Art Of Listening

The art of listening

One of the difficult things I have had to do in the past few weeks is decide about the benefits of dying to understand. It is one thing to have a website…

The Game Of Life

The Game of Life

The game of life is unpredictable and we all know that at some point we are going to be disqualified. It is in the nature of the game, one where everyone eventually loses.

The Forbidden Topic

The forbidden Topic Graveyard

I had the opportunity to speak to a prostate cancer support group in the week and as part of my discussion brought up the topic of death and dying. It is not unreasonable…